Focus: Chapter 3

Okay, so i read the whole book, now i'm going back and focusing on one chapter at a time - this week i'm on Chapter 3. The goal is to figure out how to really apply it to my life.

The biggest lesson that I got out of Chapter 3 - Really treat others the way you want to be treated. Go all the way, no matter how extravagant and unimaginable it is. You cannot expect to get this treatment from other people if you aren't willing to give it.

So in an effort to do this, i'm going to analyze what I would want in a few different situations that are going on right now and try to be as honest as possible. Then i just need to make sure i'm doing those things. I'll start with the most obvious situation where I'm having trouble being loving.

Scenario 1: How would I want Brian to treat me if I was dating someone, thought I was in love, and he wanted to be with me?
- Fight for me. Really tell me how he feels. Make every effort to put everything out there. Why: To give me a chance to make a decision knowing all the details and options.
- Relish the fact that I still want to be friends and be happy that he can share that with me. Why: If you really care about someone, it's better to have some part of them than none at all.
- Don't give up on me. Why: I may not always know how things will work out, I may not always be right, but I would like a chance to try another option if my current situation didn't work out.
- Be happy, live life, move on. Why? I realize this is contrary to the last one, but someone I would want both at the same time. I would want both of us to be as happy as possible.

So... am I doing those things? And if so, what is the outcome? I'm going to try to do some of those things if I'm not already and then report on the outcome. I'm not exactly sure what the outcome is supposed to be though.

Questions I have: What if people don't like what I'm doing? What if other people don't want to be treated the way I want to be treated? Maybe I should make it more vague - like with respect, etc.. But it's hard to determine exactly what to do if it is vague....