I've been working on this for a while now. I was given advice that this is truly what I need to do. Really, I think everyone should do it. But you have to spend some time and be honest with yourself. And you have to be honest with yourself if the person that you want to fit the qualifications just doesn't. Not that everyone's perfect or that there's an exact amount of deficient you can be and it still be okay. It's more of an overall vibe. ----------------------------- What I'm looking for.... (you only get 5 per category, hence the need to change this a million times and sometimes add two together to cheat a little) A. Church and Family 1. someone who is involved in their church 2. someone who will challenge me to strengthen my relationship with God everyday 3. someone who wants to get married within the next 3 years 4 someone who wants children, preferably 5 or 6 even, but at least 3. 5. someone with a close relationship with their family B. Personal Interests 1. someone who is interested in traveling, cooking, running 2. someone who is willing to just play facebook games or watch tv or movies and just be low key sometimes 3. someone who likes baseball and going to any kind of live sporting event 4. someone who likes to discuss intellectual things sometimes, even if it's politics and i hate politics 5. someone who likes to do volunteer activities, programs, help people, etc. C. Personal Attributes 1. someone who is willing to disagree with me 2. someone who has a good sense of humor and can laugh at themselves 3. someone who is smart and motivated 4. someone who genuinely loves other people and shows it constantly 5. someone who leads by example C. Physical Appearance/Chemistry - this category is hard... 1. someone who I am attracted to??? it's not like there's an exact look, it's more of a vibe/feeling 2. someone who is male??? 3. someone who is attracted to me??? 4. someone who is sexually adventurous (in the proper situation, of course) 5. someone who makes me feel comfortable being me